6 Mistakes That Parents Often Do When Educate Their Children At Home

Matters that relating to the education of our children at home, which in general we ourselves who make our children's development into a child's behavior and character that far from what we expect as parents. There are many things of unconscious parents habits but very influential in the mental growth of children.
It would be classify in several categories:

1. We always get the children of being figure who never wrong

For example, when our son was walking he suddenly hit the table and consequently fell and cried, then we as parents often do something to stop the cry immediately, with the beat to the table and saying, "Who's a naughty boy?, this table yes, cup ... cup ... ", and usually the child will soon be shut from crying.

Analysis: The parents are accustom the child to figure that never wrong, and this will create the recorded thoughts in mind and continue to carry the child until he is mature, the result if every event he has something wrong and something happens, then a false or wrong is from someone else or another party and he is always right. Sometimes we as parents will realize that, when the child starts against us, because from childhood we have unwittingly taught him to never feel guilty.

What should we do when the child is just learning to walk and hit something that made him cry?
We should do is teach the child to take responsibility for what happens, say to him (which he said, rubbing the sore), "Honey, you hit the table, yes, sick huh? careful next time yes dear, the way it slowly first, so do not hit the table again. "

2. We often do little lies

In the beginning, our children are always listening to what was said by his parents.Why?, Because they fully believe in their parents. However, when our children are growing up, he started to not obey the word of his parents or his parents request. What happened?, Do our children have no longer trust the word or words our words?
Without realizing it, we as parents often do the little lies every day.
One example, when a father wanted to go to the office and he is crying to come, then the father said, "Honey, dad just go for awhile, wait at home dear ..., brother and mother at home." But the fact that the father return until night.

Analysis: From the example above, if we lie lightly or often called 'little lies', but its impact was very big on the mental growth of the child, the child will no longer trust us as parents, the child can not distinguish a statement we can credible or not, because he continued the child assume all uttered by the parents is a lie, and since then the child will determine that the statement from parents are always lying, and the child began to not keep all our words.
What should we do? Will say honestly to the child, expressed with great affection and give an understanding: "Honey, I would go to the office, can’t go there, but if I go to the park, you may go with me."

We do not need to feel worried and becoming a hurry with this situation, certainly will require more time to give understanding to the child, because usually the child will cry. The child was crying because he did not understand the situation why father should always go in the morning. We must have patience and make sense to the child continuously, slowly the child will understand why his father always went in the morning. Conversely, if the father went to a place other than the office, then the child must be come with, by doing this honesty in all our words, then the child will be able to understand what we say and will comply with what we say.

3. We always often threaten

We didn’t know we often do a small threat to the child, for example, "Dear,,do not be naughty ... if you naughty, mother won’t take you to go for sightseeing, you will stay alone at home.”

Analysis: A child is being very clever in studying patterns of care of his parents, he’s not only knows the pattern of parents to educate, but to analyze and may deflect or control the pattern of care of their parents. This happens when we often use the threat with words, but after that no follow-up or maybe we had forgotten about the threat that once we say.
What should we do? The threat does not solve the problems for our naughty children, we'd better give advice readily accepted by their thoughts. For example, "Dear, do not be naughty, if you are not nice anymore, you won’t have any friends. You don’t want to play alone isn’t it?".

4. Mom and Dad not compact

Give education to children is not only the duty of a mother, or a father, but both of them. Children will never get better, when parents are not compact and do not have a deal in educating their children. Children are generally not able to understand the values of right and wrong, they will quickly capture a sense of pleasant and unpleasant for himself.

For example, if the child is sent to bed by mother because time to sleep has come, but suddenly his father's defense, here we are watching television because tomorrow is weekend, so he can watch television until satisfied. If this happens the child will choose something more fun for himself, namely watching television with his dad, what's the impact?, The child will judge that his mother is evil and his father in a good rate, and it caused fatal thing, every time mother giving orders, he will start fight behind his father's defense. Slowly but surely the child will continue to fight on his mother.

What should we do? We as parents should always compact, do not ever dualism in educating children or doing a double standard. Remember, when one of us is to educate children, then the spouse must always support. If there are different views on educating children, discuss this in private with our partners.

5. Frighten the child

It’s habit of many parents, when the child is crying and trying to calm him down is to frighten, As an example, "Eh if you crying continues, you will be injected with doctor you know!". Or another example: "Beware there is police officer, if you crying a lot, later will be arrested by the police officer!".

Analysis: Habits scare is almost similar to the habit of threatening, indeed the child will tend to stop crying and obey our wishes, but with the statement scare and threats like that, we actually do not instill a sense of love or hate the party that we mentioned, also we actually have humbled ourselves, that we do not have the power to forbid anything. As a result, our children will not like or fear the figure of the doctor or police officer, which actually is very wrong action at all, because we will have frequent contact with the doctor when your child sick, as a result, when our children in a real pain, and time to take him to the doctor , then the child will immediately reject it in various ways.

What should we do? Said honestly and give sense to the child, as we give meaning to the adults, because real children are also capable of thinking just like adults. We should say this, “Do not cry dear, if you crying, your voice will be lost, because of sore throat, if your throat pain, you can not eat your favorite food. "

6. Always give gifts even to bad behavior

Often, we as parents are not consistent with our children, when this happens, we unwittingly teach our children to fight us. As an example, when we take him to shopping, suddenly the child wants a toy that he see in the shop we've been through, then we forbade him, by saying, "Dear, you already have a lot of toys, why should you buy it again?" . But the child did not want to understand, all he wants is his wish granted by his parents, then he began to formulate strategies with a variety of ways to get his wish, as a way to whine continues to cry, if not obeyed then it is crying in a voice that is more hard again, as a result we parents become defensive, rather than embarrassed by the people around, then we say, "Buy it, but only one!"

Analysis: This is what is meant by giving a gift to the bad behavior of our children, the consequences if we let it continue to happen, it will become a weapon for the child, every time we take him for shopping.

What should we do? Should we continue to apply consistently to our children, need not be ashamed or afraid that people will say that we are ‘bad’ or 'stingy', remember always, that we're educating kids, so we are consistent, then the child will never try it again.
We should say, "Dear ... You already had plenty of toys at home, we will use our money to buy another purposes.”

These are some of the bad habits of parents to children that sometimes we do not realize, and it could adversely affect the mental development of our children. Hope that the development of mental / physical of our children will be very good, and eventually the next generation that will replace us, will be a tough generation, so that this nation will be more strong and increasingly large in the future.